One way i evaluate my practice and can tell whether it is going well, is when i sense the practice evolving out of the “between”. Neither I or my partner are willing a particular outcome. What is between me and my partner, our relating, is the well-spring of what is occuring. The between becomes richer the more prescent, open and available each participant is.
I have the image of participants “growing” towards the contact with each other – a sense of flowering towards the sunshine of the others presence.
heres a link to a nice discussion re:grace and the between