If connection is elusive, this can be frustrating. I currently like to suggest the following approaches to getting a handle.
Find stillness. This is eliminating the variable factors .
The task is to find what it is about you, that your partner is responsive to.
If you find this you can move your attention there and thus meet your partners attention.
Hiro and Peri and Paper
I may use my eyes to see the direction of your attention but I can feel your attention upon me.
I can feel where your attention is.
I can sense when I hold your attention.
I can also break your attention. I can neglect your attention and move too fast.
In kimusubi our attentions are like lights shining back at each other. And like a bright light I feel the “heat” of your attention.
In the past few weeks I have been focusing on our ability to be moved, to be motionally responsive to our partners attention. We experimented with one person restricted in their travel by having to remain on a large sheet of paper. This challenges the free participant to release thier mobility.
I was also interested how in a particularly fast engagement my own volition could override my responsiveness. I discovered that at speed I needed to allow my awareness to “fall” or “rest” in my partners movement. This receptivity allows for a direct connection with less of the interuptive mediation of my will.
These past few weeks in order to hone our attention skills we have refrained from much actual physical contact.
Carl and Peri
This has been intense and rewarding in the distinction and clarity it brings to the practice. Kimusubi is about attentional linking. This can sometimes be muddied by the mechanics of a physical contact when pressure and weight bearing can be confused with attentional focus. It is the attentional focus that might distinguish Kimusubi free-form practice from, say, contact improvisation.